Marriage for the Second Time

things to consider before getting re-married

Today, on many matrimonial websites there are a lot of people looking for their second or third marriage. Before remarrying many people hesitate to remarry since they often find themselves at a loss because their first marriage ended unhappily. But the real fact is, instead feeling sorry or disappointed; one should use the experience as a learning tool for the next marriage and can turn the second marriage into an even more successful one than the first marriage. Sometimes, second marriages can be even more successful than first marriages as both parties have more experience to know what they are looking for. But still no matter what experience people have from their first marriages, it is unavoidable to have problems. In order to overcome most common problems occurring in second time marriages here are some helpful tips:

·         The first rule is to be sure that you really know the person you plan to marry. If you consider your previous marriage, you will see that most of the problems occurred during marriage was simply because of the fact that both parts did not know each other. Be sure that each parts beliefs, not only religion, both also about money, children, love and social are in same line.

·         It's important to find out which issues caused conflict in your last marriage so you can openly discuss them with your current partner before deciding marriage. While many times a divorce might be the cause of one partner’s indiscretion or another major flaw, most divorces are the result of a buildup of bad feelings toward each other based on small and petty reasons.

·         Similarly, understanding of what both side’s needs and expectations will be an important subject while going into a second marriage.  As men and women’s expectations are mostly very different from each other, be sure to talk about your expectations so there will be no conflicts in your second marriage or even if there are some they will be resolved quickly and effectively.

·         Arguing over money is one of the main reasons for divorce. As both sides will be old enough to establish way of handling their finances additionally to their own resources, there should be a major topic of discussion concerning the way to handle the combined finances before you have the wedding.